Showing posts with label personal responsibility. Show all posts
Showing posts with label personal responsibility. Show all posts

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Dealing with the Debt...

That title sounds all down and depressing, doesn't it? In many ways, this past week's Congressional debacle was depressing and had some huge "debbie downer" moments.  For those like me, who take politics quite seriously and who can see that this does affect us all, then you know what I'm talking about and can relate.  It's tough to see such posturing and hatefulness coming from our Representatives, especially when they have your kids financial future in their hands; a future that is more and more burdened by money our kids haven't even made yet.  That's a tough one to swallow...at least for me.  It's kinda tough to teach your kids to be good stewards of money they haven't made yet, right?

And so, I've been praying.  A lot. Often, my first reaction with politics is pure anger.  I hate the way that both sides have agendas and in the last 25 years, it's rare for that agenda to actually include the American people.  There's relevance to both sides of the aisle and if they won't see that, then might I implore us to?   Perhaps we could stop allowing them to provoke us to such extremes and let's work this out among US...the people ourselves.

Through nothing more than the grace of God Himself, I have learned that anger does not accomplish anything.  I've learned that anger only makes you more angry...and bitter...and angry.  These are emotions that actually accomplish very little, except to make me angry and bitter, and I don't want to be either of those.  So, I'll make a different choice that will accomplish things. 

To understand what I want to accomplish, this must first be understood:  Our government is not designed to handle the role they are currently trying to take.  It is impossible to do all they are trying to do in the broad strokes that the federal government must take.  However, I can only change that with my vote, and that's not enough when people are losing their jobs, their homes, their entire life savings and are unable to purchase the necessities of living.  This should not be happening, and even more appropriate, it should never be happening here.  In a country that has been blessed with more than any other in the history of the world.  We have lost our way and it's time to stop looking to politicians to fix it.  There is only ONE who can fix this and He has promised that He will, in His due time. 

In the meantime, He has given us a directive and my life's goal is to follow it.  We are to make disciples of all nations.  We are to feed the hungry and care for the orphan and widow.  We are to love the unlovable and show kindness to the unkind.  We are to turn the other cheek and pray for our enemies.  We are to reach out to those who are lost and afraid.  We are to pray without ceasing.  We are to fast and be on our knees before the Most High God.  And then....we are to listen to what He has to say and DO IT.   These are not suggestions, nor or they "callings".  We have a directive.  We are the children of God...and it's time we started acting like it. 

Look around you and SEE.  There are hungry people in your area.  There are homeless people in your area. There are orphans and young pregnant women where ever you are.  There are lost and angry people everywhere you turn.  There are people who simply need the smallest of kindnesses...perhaps a bag of groceries or a visit to the nursing home?  Perhaps a teen center that desperately needs volunteers?  Perhaps an elderly man or woman who has no way to the store to get their prescriptions or even no money to buy them?  Look around you and see.  And then pray.  Pray fervently and with hearts that are turned toward the only One who can change us and who loves us enough to do just that. 

We must stop depending upon the system to "fix" things when God Himself is the only One capable of that.  We must trust and rely on Him and we must believe that He is on His throne and perfectly in control.  The world is going crazy, but God is not. 

An added bonus is that no matter what side of this showdown you are on, we all get to vote in 2012.  Pray and then vote.  Don't sit home thinking your vote doesn't matter.  It most definitely does...

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Bam Margera...An Open Letter

Bam,

   Death is a shocker, isn't it? We knows it's inevitable and yet it shocks us to our core every time.  I'm very sorry that you're dealing with the recent death of Ryan Dunn.  I would suppose that anyone with a heart felt sympathy to hear that someone so young had passed away and certainly in the tragic way that Ryan did.  I, too, have lost a friend and understand the surreal place that you're living in, right now.  I was only 19 at the time, and it shook my world in a way that very few things ever have. It's been years, and that is still absolute truth. I think of her often, as I know that you will think often of Ryan. You simply cannot believe that they are gone.  It feels a little like moving under water, with an anvil sitting squarely on your chest, doesn't it? 

    My friend's name was Sonja Ruppe.  She died at the age of 22 while on her way to the University that we both attended at the time.  She was driving up I-85, in South Carolina, when she was hit by a driver who was on the wrong side of the interstate.  That driver had taken some pills that she'd washed down with a "little" alcohol and in her stupor had mistakenly chosen the wrong side of the highway to reach her destination.  Sonja was behind an 18 wheeler who hit their brakes when they saw the drunk driver coming the wrong way.  Because Sonja was unable to see around the 18 wheeler, even though she was traveling at a correct rate of speed and at a correct distance behind the truck according to police reports, she moved into the fast lane and was slammed into, head on, at a speed of around 65 miles per hour, while Sonja was driving at almost the same rate of speed.  Essentially, that is like hitting a brick wall while driving at a rate of 120 miles per hour. 

    As you can imagine, there wasn't much left of Sonja...her legs were still under the steering wheel of the car, while her torso was found in the backseat of her small compact...and the intoxicated lady left the scene with little more than a few broken bones.  We heard later that this is quite common in drunk driving accidents. 

      I know that in Ryan's wreck this wasn't the case and I genuinely am sorry that you, and your other friends, are dealing with this tragedy.  However, I think it must be said that at the end of the day all of our actions have consequences.  For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.  I've read the blogs and the news articles that are up in arms about Roger Ebert's distasteful comments, but I don't think any of the Jackass crew should have the luxury of simply excusing Ryan's behavior because he was famous and your friend.  He made a choice.  He faced the consequences of those choices.  Unfortunately, in his case, those consequences were death.  Actually, I find it pretty distasteful that so many have the audacity to act as though this is some kind of surprise and that it's somehow so unfair.  Really? Seriously?

     Perhaps, when all the media find some other ridiculous story to beat us over the head with and life settles back into it's regular routine, you and the Steve O's of the world should take this out of it's little box in your head and really dissect it.  Your friend killed someone else because he CHOSE to drive drunk at speeds of potentially up to 140 miles per hour.  Ryan Dunn got behind the wheel of his Porsche and, evidently believing himself to be invincible, killed himself and someone else.  I can't tell you how thankful everyone should be that he didn't kill anyone else.  I know, first hand, the heartache that you feel when the person you loved did nothing wrong, and still...they find themselves being forced to pay for the consequences of someone else's choices and actions. 

     Perhaps, when all is said and done, you and the Jackass crew could sit down and determine that being a Jackass may be lucrative, but it's also dangerous, and in many cases, wrong.  Maybe you guys could do something good with the fame that you've stumbled into.  Let's be very honest, there's just not that much talent involved with your shows, but there are kids who believe that they can live the way you portray your life and that there are no repercussions.  I'd say Ryan has proven that that simply isn't the case.  Don't let this opportunity go to waste.  Stop being a Jackass and get yourself together and tell the world that what your friend did was wrong.  Tell that kid sitting in front of the TV watching you guys harm yourselves for pay, that driving while intoxicated has consequences that really are like that pebble that you throw in the pond.  The ripples move out to your family, your friends, and anyone who loves you....whether you're the Jackass that chooses to drive drunk and kills himself and the passenger with him, or the jackass that slams into college kids and steals their life forever.  Someone always pays for the choice of driving drunk.

  You, too, have a choice, Bam.  Will you act like a spoiled child and continue to live your life in a way that is completely about you and no one else?  Forever in search of the big "rush"? Will you bury yourself in the very thing that killed someone you called a friend or will you examine this and take some personal responsibility for yourself?  All eyes are, once again, on you, Bam.

    Again, I'm so very sorry that you, and all your friends, are having to live with this heartache.  I promise you that it really will get better(I know that sounds trite, but I swear it's the truth)...and I pray that you use this time, and this opportunity, to do something that very few people ever get the chance to do:  affect how people see the world and how they act and react to it.  Don't waste it on being a jackass...

Kristi